Definition of men n women...a profund truth

hm... so went to church on Sunday and ironically the pastor was talking bout marriage... it was an eye opening experience to me coz it gave me my first in look on the tragic knowledge of how Australians think about marriage... and how liberal they were about the matter... i guess growing up in a secure family i never knew the majority truth that is currently in the world... anyway... he said a few things that personally i felt were so true and that i wanted to share with you...

a man defines himself with the contribution and performance he gives... let me explain, a man, any man has ego... be it big of small...it's there and generally a man's definition of self in thru the contribution and performance he does or bring to the relationship or work... when we as women pick on their contribution, it hurts their self definition thus making them feel unappreciated and unloved....

a woman defines herself thru the health of the relationship she has with the man.... this is found it a profound turth... i've always been afraid of becoming a super possessive gf and the truth is, i've became a little when i realise that the health of my relationship was insecure.... this to me was something that i finally understood.... i though i was jus being a whacko but now i understand why whenever i get or almost get into a relationship i feel very insecure and have a needy side... not because i'm a whacko but it was because i as a woman was define by the health of my relationship and it's because the relationships health was unstable...i became unstable... hehehe... at least now i know i'm normal... hehehe... so yea... it was profound and i really hope one day my husband and i will know this truth and know what i need and i will know what he needs...

thru this insight... i learn to "Stroke a man's ego" once a while and to let him know that he's contribution is knowledge.... so on goes my life of waiting for the Right moment to arrive... until then... i'll still be preparing for him...